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Survivor Response Guide
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Salesian Pastoral Support Program
For Survivors of Sexual Abuse and Boundary Violations
The Salesians of Don Bosco recognize that sexual misconduct by its members has devastating consequences for survivors and their families. We are aware of the effects of this tragic behavior and have developed a steadfast commitment to helping those affected. This brochure is intended to provide you with basic information about (1) how the Salesians of Don Bosco define child sexual misconduct within ministerial relationships, (2) what its procedures are for responding to complaints of sexual abuse or sexually inappropriate behavior, and (3) to whom those subjected to sexual misconduct can turn for help.CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE: A DEFINITION
Sexual abuse is any unwanted touch or verbal harassment of a sexual nature that is directed at a child or adolescent less than 18 years of age. Abusive behaviors can lie on a continuum from sexual looks and innuendo on the one end, to rubbing backs, legs, and other body parts, all the way to touching genitals and intercourse or sodomy. Generally, the more extreme or obvious physical forms of sexual abuse are the easiest to identify (the touching of genitals and intercourse/sodomy). But sexual abuse can occur in more subtle forms. This is sometimes referred to in the field as grooming, a precursor to the more obvious forms of sexual assault. These more subtle forms include sexual comments, touching of non-genital areas, and exposing a child to pornography or the sexual behaviors of others. Many adults question whether sexual experiences from the past were, in fact, sexual abuse. They are frequently looking back many years, even decades, and therefore their memory may not be completely clear. Another reason for this confusion, however, is that many perpetrators use their power, rationalization, and language skills to manipulate and convince their survivors not to listen to their own sense of right and wrong. If you have any concerns about whether or not you were a survivor of sexual abuse, our Survivor Assistance Coordinator can help you figure that out.THE SURVIVOR ASSISTANCE COORDINATOR
Sexual abuse is any unwanted touch or verbal harassment of a sexual nature that is directed at a child or adolescent less than 18 years of age. Abusive behaviors can lie on a continuum from sexual looks and innuendo on the one end, to rubbing backs, legs, and other body parts, all the way to touching genitals and intercourse or sodomy. Generally, the more extreme or obvious physical forms of sexual abuse are the easiest to identify (the touching of genitals and intercourse/sodomy). But sexual abuse can occur in more subtle forms. This is sometimes referred to in the field as grooming, a precursor to the more obvious forms of sexual assault. These more subtle forms include sexual comments, touching of non-genital areas, and exposing a child to pornography or the sexual behaviors of others. Many adults question whether sexual experiences from the past were, in fact, sexual abuse. They are frequently looking back many years, even decades, and therefore their memory may not be completely clear. Another reason for this confusion, however, is that many perpetrators use their power, rationalization, and language skills to manipulate and convince their survivors not to listen to their own sense of right and wrong. If you have any concerns about whether or not you were a survivor of sexual abuse, our Survivor Assistance Coordinator can help you figure that out.
THE REPORTING PROCESS
What happens once you decide you were a survivor of sexual abuse by a member of the Salesians of Don Bosco, or you are wondering if you were a survivor of sexual abuse? You can contact the Salesians of Don Bosco by letter, telephone, or email, explaining your situation. The Salesians of Don Bosco West will respond to all allegations of sexual misconduct with great care.
The Survivor Assistance Coordinator will contact you by telephone to discuss your mental health needs. If you desire, the Survivor Assistance Coordinator will help you find a counselor in your area that specializes in working with survivors of sexual abuse. The Salesians of Don Bosco will pay for those services (up to $15,000.00). Some individuals who were survivors of sexual abuse contact the Salesians of Don Bosco requesting a monetary settlement for their pain and suffering and/or medical expenses they incurred as a result of those abusive experiences. Unfortunately, the Salesian Pastoral Assistance Program is not the appropriate mechanism for resolving legal matters. You would need to contact an attorney to resolve any claim of damages.What happens to the person who abused me?
If the person who perpetrated the abuse is still a member of the Salesian congregation, the Provincial will remove the member from public ministry until the Review Board, which is charged with the responsibility of determining the credibility of the accusation, resolves the matter. Removing the accused member from public ministry helps to protect other children from potential survivorization. If the Review Board finds the accusation credible, the member will be formally restricted (not permitted to be involved in public ministry; not be allowed to function publicly as a priest or a deacon, including public celebration of the sacraments; may not wear clerical or distinctive religious attire publicly or use ecclesiastical titles in public communications), and places the individual on a safety plan (risk reduction strategies) that is monitored monthly (or more often if necessary) and reviewed each year by the Review Board.THE SALESIAN REVIEW BOARD
The Review Board consists of members of the community skilled in the area of child abuse, who will investigate all accusations of sexual maltreatment by Salesians of Don Bosco. The Review Board collects all the necessary information that will help it determine whether or not an accusation is credible. This includes, but is not limited to: a statement by the survivor, an investigator's interview of the survivor and alleged perpetrator, a response by the member to the accusation, psychological evaluation and polygraph of the alleged perpetrator, court documents, past accusations, witness interviews, etc.
The possible findings of the Review Board are- Credible
- Not Credible or
- Unable to Determine.
A Not Credible finding means that after reviewing all the available information, the Review Board did not believe the events took place as stated.
An Unable to Determine finding does not necessarily mean that the Review Board didn’t believe the survivor; it just may mean there was not enough information provided to come to a Credible or Not Credible conclusion. This lack of information may include, but not be limited to, the lack of a survivor interview by an investigator, a deceased or otherwise unavailable perpetrator, an invalid polygraph, or a lack of details or memory by the survivor. The Review Board does everything it can do to make a determination in each and every case.What about if the perpetrator is deceased or no longer a Salesian?
That doesn’t necessarily mean that the Review Board cannot reach a “Credible” determination. In fact, by means of a thorough interview with the survivor, as well as other documents, and prior complaints against the member, the Review Board has found many accusations “Credible.” Don’t forget, an “Unable to Determine” finding does not mean that the Review Board didn’t believe you; it just means that there wasn’t enough information for them to reach a decision. In many cases, the Provincial still approves the continuation of the therapy services the survivor was receiving. If the perpetrator is working within another religious organization, the Review Board will notify that organization in an effort to protect other children.INVESTIGATOR INTERVIEW
An important part of the investigation and determination process is the survivor’s personal statement and the investigator's interview. You will be asked to participate in the process by writing to the Review Board about your experience and/or agreeing to meet with an investigator skilled in interviewing survivors of child sexual abuse. It is purely optional whether or not you participate in this process. However, if you refuse to be interviewed, and the Review Board finds your accusation Not Credible, you will not receive further mental health services. If the Review Board finds the accusation, Unable to Determine, the Provincial will decide whether or not mental health services will continue. Whether or not the survivor agreed to be interviewed by the board investigator will be a factor in this decision. Although it may seem a bit daunting to talk with an investigator and participate in the Review Board investigation process, many survivors have expressed that they found the Review Board’s determination validating, and that was ultimately very helpful in their healing process.THE REVIEW BOARD OUTCOME
What happens if my accusation is determined by the Review Board to be “Credible?”
You will receive a letter or phone call (whichever you prefer) from the Provincial informing you of the Review Board’s decision. The Provincial will offer to meet with you in person. If you have already started receiving counseling services, those will continue until you have reached the monetary limit described above.
What happens if my accusation is determined by the Review Board to be “Not Credible?”
You will receive a letter or phone call (whichever you prefer) from the Provincial informing you of the Review Board’s decision. If you have already started receiving counseling services, you will be given a short period of time (2-4 sessions) to bring your work with the therapist to a conclusion.
What happens if my accusation is determined by the Review Board to be “Unable to Determine?”
You will receive a letter or phone call (whichever you prefer) from the Provincial informing you of the Review Board’s decision. If you have already started receiving counseling services, the Provincial will make a decision about whether or not the counseling services will continue. If the decision is to stop the counseling services, you will be given a short period of time (2-4 sessions) to bring your work with the therapist to a conclusion.PREVENTION
The Salesians of Don Bosco West realize that coming forward and talking about your experiences takes a great deal of strength and courage. In addition to establishing procedures for responding to sexual abuse, the Salesians of Don Bosco West have undertaken a series of measures to prevent future incidents of abuse. These include requiring all new members, seminarians, and novices to submit to an in-depth psychological and psycho-sexual evaluation before they enter formation (the formal training process to becoming a Salesian), as well as a provision for continuing education programs for members about issues of sexuality and personal conduct.CONCLUSION
It is our firm belief that religious must maintain appropriate boundaries with laypersons in order to preserve the integrity of the ministerial relationship. Moreover, we call upon those with knowledge of a member’s inappropriate behavior, whether past or present, to come forward with this information so that innocent survivors may be spared from further harm. In short, we ask everyone to join with us to protect the safety of children, women, and men, and with firm determination, to promote healing where there is pain.
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